Friday, October 20, 2017

October meeting

Interesting morning not many came but those that did enjoyed the experience at least they tell me so and they still want to come.
We looked at three videos,one six ways to make people to immediately like you. One is to mirror the other person in the way they stand or their manner. Another to be vulnerable, to be positive and to have a sense of humour. I think those four are enough to think about.
One video put forward the argument that reality is a simulation created by a future life form.

To save computer power if you don't see it it isn't there. The world exists only as we look at it. Quantum theory seems to reveal the same thing. Perhaps it is true.


Another video increased consciousness put forward that reality was a mental creation by us who in turn is the mental creation of "God" I like this one better.



 Are You TryiThe Truth Warriorng To Escape Yourself?
I can see in my life that there have been times that I have been unwilling to be with what I am feeling, be that anxiety, anger, fear, worry and the thoughts I am thinking, especially if they are negative. I can see that I am usually looking for ways to distract or get away from these thoughts or feelings through working, exercising, traveling, eating, drinking etc. However the reality is that no matter how much I do these activities, I can never seem to escape myself.
The truth is that we can go to the most distant countries, be with the most beautiful lovers, have the greatest jobs and have the most fancy of houses, however we can never escape who we really are. We always bring ourselves to every experience by the thoughts we think and the feelings we are feeling.
We are brainwashed by the media, advertising and society in general that all these things outside of ourselves can be a way to make us happy, peaceful and joyful, however it can only be found within.
Many people in our society use drink, drugs, sex, money, people, fame, watching TV, work etc. as a means to escape their existing reality, the reality of what their minds and their feelings are creating. This cycle of escaping can be a vicious cycle whereby people can live this way all their lives and never know any different. Sometimes people reach a place of deep unhappiness in their lives which pushes them to reflect and reevaluate their lives. Often times it is at this place that the person has the opportunity to create another way of living.
We are taught from an early age to NOT become aware and understand how we are feeling and thinking. When we were in school and college, we were told what to think rather than how to think. In my experience, it was a very rare occasion where I was taught how to understand and become aware of how I was feeling and thinking. Generally, children are punished in school for misbehaving and judged for being so called “bad”. There is little focus and attention given to why the child behaved in the way they did and what was really going on for them at an emotional and psychological level. The “bad” behaviour is reinforced by giving attention to it and more than likely the child tends to repeat the behaviour.
When we come from this place of lack of awareness and understanding of ourselves, it can lead us to a place of trying to shut out or escape who really are and what is really going on for us.
So how do we learn to stop escaping ourselves?

Here are a few ways I have come across, that you may like to consider;
~ Meditate for 20 – 30 minutes per day and just become aware of your thoughts and feelings.
~ Journal or do a stream of consciousness of writing on how you are in that moment.
~ Ask yourself – how is it serving me to be doing this work, be drinking this much, etc?
~ Get more connected with nature – go for a walk in the woods, jump into the sea, climb a mountain.

How To Live Each Day As If It Is Your Last?


You probably have heard of the saying to live each day of your life as if it is your last, but how many of us actually do it. Many of us procrastinate in doing the things we really want to do or live the life we really want to live. We say things like I will do it when I have more time, more money etc. however often times we never get around to it.
I have been becoming aware in my own life of how I am engaging in this pattern of behaviour and thought. I can see that I am making excuses of why not to do this and not to do that. At the moment I am in a job which my heart really isn’t in it. The truth is I am not finding any meaning and purpose in this job. I am currently in Australia on a 4 week holiday and I really don’t want to go back to this job. I have this dream of going to India and learn to become a yoga teacher in my life and also explore the many wonders in India.
I can see my approval seeking thoughts and limiting beliefs holding me back. I have been asking myself the question of what do I want? The answer which is coming up for me is to be true to myself! At times this easier said than done in the world that we live in.
Most of us are living in a way that we have all the time in the world. We can wish our days away by wishing we had more time, more money etc. By living this way we can have the tendency to put off really living until something happens such as getting that job or when we have the money or the time….Time waits for no man/woman!! Time really is our greatest commodity….it is up to each of us how we choose to spend it.
How would you choose to live if you knew you had a limited amount of time on this earth?…….Would you choose to continue to live the life you are currently living?
The truth is that none of us know when out time is up. You or I could die today, tomorrow, next week or next year. We need to consciously choose to live our lives as if everyday is our last day on this earth.
Here are a few questions to get you thinking…
*  Are you living to die or dying to live?
*  What things are you putting off that you could do today that would
make you a more happier, peaceful and loving person?
*  What would you dream to do if you had more time or money?
*  If you knew you had only 6 months to live, what would you be, do or
have?
*  What would you like people to say about you if you died in regards to
the person you were or how you lived?
*  What would you like to say to yourself when you are on your death
bed?
You might wonder, at some point today, what’s going on in another person’s mind. You may compliment someone’s great mind, or say they are out of their mind. You may even try to expand or free your own mind.
But what is a mind?
Defining the concept is a surprisingly slippery task. The mind is the seat of consciousness, the essence of your being. Without a mind, you cannot be considered meaningfully alive. So what exactly, and where precisely, is it?
Traditionally, scientists have tried to define the mind as the product of brain activity: The brain is the physical substance, and the mind is the conscious product of those firing neurons, according to the classic argument. But growing evidence shows that the mind goes far beyond the physical workings of your brain.

No doubt, the brain plays an incredibly important role. But our mind cannot be confined to what’s inside our skull, or even our body, according to a definition first put forward by Dan Siegel, a professor of psychiatry at UCLA School of Medicine 

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